When You Feel You Do Not Belong in The Room

You don’t feel welcome. You feel like an impostor trying to get what is rightfully meant for others.

You feel that you don’t belong, yet you are here. You chose to be here, yet you feel uncomfortable about it.

You are afraid that someone might catch you and that you may be scolded for the choice you made for yourself, because you may be here for reasons different from theirs.

Is your reason the wrong reason to be in this place, at this moment in time?

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So many times, we feel that we do not belong when we find ourselves in a room with others for reasons different from theirs. We may feel intimidated and want to remove ourselves from the space.

What we fail to recognise, though, is that even if the person in front of us has a different reason for being in that place than we do, that doesn’t mean we have no right to be there.

In fact, if we were to ask everyone in the room why they are in that specific room, we may realise that at the core, everyone wants something for themselves. That something might be more or less similar to ours, but it is something, and it is for themselves.

So what should we do when we feel uncomfortable about the reason why we decided to be in a specific room? I would say we should just own our reason for it. It may be that at some point it will resonate with someone else’s reason, and the two of us will then find each other in that space we both decided to be in right at that specific moment in time.